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This Is Me

This Is Me

Many readers might be asking who is this person and why should I listen to what she has to say. First, let me start by saying I am not a relationship expert nor do I claim to be one. This is just me sharing my trials and tribulations about starting over and dating over 40. …

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Check Your Baggage, Please

Check Your Baggage, Please

It is impossible for anyone over 40 to start dating again and not have some baggage. Divorced, never married whatever your relationship status was we all carry issues and hang-ups from the previous relationship. The key is to try to deal with these issues so you do not carry them where it sabotages your chances of finding …

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Always Show Love – Never Hesitate

Always Show Love – Never Hesitate

  For privacy reasons, I do not share many personal details about my life, especially regarding my family. The reason for my going against this rule is I want to take a moment to raise some awareness about a rare autoimmune disorder. It is called juvenile dermatomyositis. My twelve-year-old daughter was diagnosed last month. It can be …

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Dating If You Have Children

Dating If You Have Children

As if dating after 40 was not challenging enough many must consider their children or the children of prospective dates. It is always a good idea never to bring your children into the mix of your dating world unless you are sure all parties are ready. Keep it simple; you want them to know that nothing …

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Watch Out For Minefields!!

Watch Out For Minefields!!

This is a cautionary tale for people dating at any age; divorced or those just trying to find love. You will run across scammers, catfishers, liars, and people with fake personas and profiles. Some are easy to spot and some are experts at lying and manipulation. Even the smartest of people can fall prey to one of these …

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Dating Is Like Gambling

Dating Is Like Gambling

In a weird way, I liken dating to gambling. To me, they have a lot of interesting similarities. Just my opinion but here are the similarities I see in the two things.   Rely on your instincts if confused; they are invaluable. There will be a lot of ups and downs along the way. Cheating …

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Don’t You Dare Question Your Self Worth!

Don’t You Dare Question Your Self Worth!

Getting divorced can be one of the most stressful and confusing things most ever endure. Even if you initiate the divorce the change can shake you to your core. It can leave you questioning value and self-worth. The same is true when you begin to date again. Most feel apprehensive, uncomfortable and lacking in confidence. …

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It Is Okay To Want To Settle Down But Don’t Settle

It Is Okay To Want To Settle Down But Don’t Settle

When you find yourself single again after 40 many people take a different view on dating. You may start thinking you are too old to find love again. This is simply not true. Age should not keep you from trying to find someone special.  Do not let the feeling you only have a finite amount of time and chances to find …

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Dating Website Warnings

Dating Website Warnings

One thing you will quickly learn especially if you are using a dating website is you must have a sense of humor. You are going to get some interesting (odd and sometimes downright weird) messages. You will run across very memorable profiles and may even chat and interact with some people you cannot believe are real. …

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Is Starting Over Easier For Men And Women?

Is Starting Over Easier For Men And Women?

After a divorce, both sexes have differing opinions on who moves on the quickest and most easily. I am sure there have been countless studies done on this topic. From my experience and those of my family and friends, it seems neither sex has it easier. There are many factors that contribute to how quickly …

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Change Can Be Good

Change Can Be Good

After a divorce or getting out of a long relationship feeling off balance and unsure how to proceed in life is normal. After being married so long there was a lot I felt I wanted and needed to change. Especially since I am at an age where you already start to question life choices and …

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